Helping a friend struggling with addiction

Helping a friend struggling with addiction

Published June 2011

It can be very difficult to watch a friend or loved one struggling with an addiction.  However, there are many things you can do and many ways you can help.  Initially, it can be hard to recognize if your friend has a drug or alcohol addiction problem, because most likely they have been trying to hide their behaviors.

There are several warning signs to look for, such as moodiness, a drastic change in demeanor, erratic behavior, sudden loss or gain of weight, flaking on plans or not following through with commitments, problems at work or with friends and family, and an overall shift in personality or attitude.

Once you’ve recognized these behaviors and can confirm that your friend is abusing drugs or alcohol, the first and most important thing you can do is to stop enabling their behavior. If you go out drinking with them or are around them when they’re using, you are only aggravating the problem.

When your friend is sober and willing to listen, approach them gently and let them know your concerns rather than expressing criticism. Let them know that you are willing to help and that you are there for them.  Give them specific examples of why you are worried, and let them know you think their substance abuse is impacting their lives in negative ways.