Addiction takes a toll on the whole family. It can be hard to watch someone you love, especially a parent, self-destruct and cause harm to themselves as they indulge in substance abuse. Maybe you are experiencing something similar in your family. Unfortunately, there’s no easy way to address these issues with someone abusing drugs and alcohol because they are often in denial and refuse to admit any problem present, regardless of how obvious it is to you.
Growing up with a family member who struggles with substance abuse-related issues can strain family bonds, causing immense stress during the holidays and any other family get-togethers.
An individual may experience physical, mental, or emotional abuse from a parent addicted to drugs and alcohol. Growing up under these conditions, no matter how old or how many years pass, the trauma and pain lie somewhere under the surface. Therefore, it is essential to remain aware of the conditions you are living and experiencing so that you can create boundaries from the effects of addiction-related pain.
The critical thing to remember is that the family member who is over-indulging or abusing drugs and alcohol is doing so because of their underlying conditions and unresolved problems. This is not your fault, and sometimes, no matter how hard you try or what you do, the one suffering needs to be ready for the treatment they need to recover from substance abuse fully.
Suppose you have a parent or other family member struggling with addiction and substance abuse-related issues. In that case, you know the heart-wrenching feelings of mistrust, betrayal, and a lack of confidence when relying on that individual.
Here are a few things to keep in mind before initiating the conversation to motivate them in the right direction.
Many of those addicted to drugs and alcohol spiral out of control immediately after being hooked on a substance or gradually. They desperately want to grab hold of something that gives them purpose and fills the void. Typically, they feel their lives are meaningless, and no one cares what they are experiencing.
Reaching for the bottle or a syringe to get high takes them away from the place they feel unwanted and forgotten. It’s painful for everyone involved: the addicted person, the family members, co-workers who witness the destruction, and friends who want to help. The addict may begin hearing that their condition is a disease, and they are powerless over their demons. That is not true. At Passages, we don’t believe that addiction is an incurable disease.
We believe in the empowering nature that, as humans, we can overcome any obstacle put in our way. Let’s look at what is causing the problem and focus on healing the underlying conditions. It is possible to break free and live an addiction-free life.
We believe that those who become dependent on drugs and alcohol do so for the following reasons:
1. A Chemical Imbalance
2. Events of the past you have not reconciled
3. Current conditions you can't cope with
4. Things you believe that aren't true
Your loved one is struggling with these factors. They will need to enter a treatment center, such as Passages Malibu, where the healing process is focused on identifying and treating the underlying conditions causing the addiction. Talking to your loved one may seem uncomfortable initially, but it’s crucial not to hesitate as the problem could grow. Here are seven key points.